Hi everyone, Today I’m diving into a juicy topic: the sneaky ways narcissists hide their affairs. I’ve put together a massive list of tactics they use to keep their cheating under wraps, and trust me, it’s eye-opening. Let’s get right into it!
1. The “I’m Always Working” Excuse
Narcissists love to use work as a cover. They’ll say things like, “I have to work late again,” or “I’m stuck at the office this weekend.” Nobody works harder than a narcissist hiding an affair! In reality, they’re not burning the midnight oil, they’re spending time with their other supply.
2. Family and Friends as Alibis
Another go-to excuse is “helping family.” They’ll claim they’re fixing a cousin’s car or moving furniture for their mom. But here’s the kicker: their toxic friends and family often cover for them. Yes, even their mother might lie to protect them, especially if they’re a covert narcissist who doesn’t like you. Don’t trust their inner circle, they’re just as deceitful.
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3. Fake Videos to Fool You
Narcissists are masters of deception. They’ll send you videos supposedly showing them at a work party or family gathering, smiling and waving. You think, “Oh, they’re just chilling with friends.” Plot twist: that video might be years old! They keep a stash of these clips to throw you off their trail.
4. Visiting the Other Supply’s House
Ever notice how narcissists prefer coming to your place instead of inviting you to theirs? That’s because they don’t want to get caught. They’d rather go to their other supply’s house, where you’re less likely to show up unannounced. It’s all about keeping their tracks covered.
5. Jobs with Freedom
Narcissists gravitate toward jobs that give them flexibility, like salespeople, truck drivers, or night-shift workers. These roles make it impossible to pin down their location. They’ll say, “I was with a client,” or “I had to make a stop,” when they’re actually with their other supply.
6. Masking Phone Contacts
Here’s a classic: they disguise their other supply’s number in their phone. You might see “Pizzeria,” “Laundromat,” or “Cousin Mike” pop up on their screen. When the phone rings, they’ll brush it off, “Oh, it’s just my cousin asking for advice”—and send it to voicemail. Don’t fall for it; it’s likely their side piece.
7. Sneaky Calls and Texts
Narcissists are pros at sneaking off to contact their other supply. They’ll step outside for a “quick cigarette,” head to the bathroom, or run to the store for something trivial like milk. These errands can stretch into hours, and they’ll come back with a flimsy excuse like, “I ran into a friend.” Meanwhile, they were chatting with their other supply.
8. The “My Phone Died” Lie
If they’re not responding to your calls or texts, you’ll hear, “My phone died,” or “I left it in the car.” Funny how they always have their phone on them otherwise, right? This is just another way to dodge accountability while they’re off with someone else.
9. Using Friends’ Houses as a Cover
Narcissists might say they’re hanging out at a friend’s place, and they might even have their friend vouch for them over the phone. But don’t be fooled—they could be inviting their other supply over, using the friend’s house as a safe spot to avoid suspicion.
10. Claiming They’re “Separated”
This one’s a doozy, especially with married narcissists. They’ll tell you they’re “separated” and in the process of a divorce, but they’re still living with their spouse. They’ll say things like, “My ex just walked in, I’ll call you later,” to make you think they’re in a messy transition. In reality, they’re not getting divorced they’re just stringing you along.
Bonus: Other Sneaky Tactics
- Using Kids as Excuses: Divorced narcissists often claim they’re with their kids to avoid seeing you, when they’re actually with another supply.
- Early Morning Affairs: While you’re sleeping, they’re sneaking out to see someone else, then claiming they “slept in” until noon.
- Gaslighting and Accusing You: They’ll flip the script and accuse you of cheating to deflect suspicion. If they’re pointing fingers, it’s a red flag that they’re the ones being unfaithful.
- Long-Distance Deception: Narcissists love long-distance relationships because it’s easier to juggle multiple partners when no one’s checking up on them.
In short
Narcissists are cunning, and their ability to hide affairs is next-level. The key is to stay sharp and not trust too quickly. If something feels off, it probably is. Don’t let them gaslight you into doubting your instincts. If you’ve got other sneaky tactics you’ve seen narcissists use, drop them in the comments to spread awareness!
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