Today, I want to share something about a difficult topic: how victims become aware of the negative characteristics and behaviors of a narcissist when they were in a relationship with them. I know from personal experience that acknowledging this occurred is likely one of our biggest challenges.
But yes, co-narcissism exists, and sadly, it produces the same or even the same type of self-destructive and poisonous cycle we see in our narcissistic lovers. Only by embracing such bitter truths are we able to let go, heal, and move forward in life.
The Narcissist’s Target: Vulnerable Strength
Narcissists tend to target strong, intelligent, independent, and often very successful individuals who are, however, lacking something in their lives. It’s not unusual for narcissists to hook a person during their most vulnerable moments when they feel lonely or experience hardships, such as a personal loss or illness.
Many victims are preconditioned from childhood, making them susceptible to manipulation, especially if they grew up with a narcissistic parent, for instance. Once living with a narcissist becomes their “new normal,” victims subconsciously adopt some of the narcissist’s negative traits and behaviors as a coping or survival mechanism. The isolation they experience prevents exposure to outside influences that could prevent changes in their behavior.
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